Why did I want to do this? What brings me here? I wish I would’ve prepared my “elevator speech” in response to this question instead of my typical MBA introduction. Every time I was asked this dreaded question, I stumbled my way through it instead of having something eloquent prepared. How to explain it? Without getting super personal too soon? There are ONLY about a thousand reasons. Here are my top ten, and why they don’t work. I made a table for your reading pleasure – I am a consultant, after all.
Reason | Why It Doesn’t Work |
Working internationally is something I’ve always wanted to do | Sounds insincere and like something a sorority girl says |
After certain mistakes in my life, now I grab every chance that comes along to make myself happy | Prompts questions, too personal, may sound selfish and like I’ve recently been on Doctor Phil |
I’m single and childless; this is the time to do it! | Sounds somewhat (back-handedly) desperate |
I needed a change | Sounds like I need a self-help guru / book / therapist |
I wasn’t satisfied professionally | Sounds like I should’ve left the firm |
I want more work / life balance | Sounds lazy and that I don’t think Aussies work as much as Americans |
I would like to enjoy some warmer weather | Move to CA or something, dude |
Sounds like I’m cashing in on others’ hard work / good fortune / better foresight | |
It was a great opportunity to expand my business network, skills, client base, and breadth of industries I work in | Sounds like a crazy robot kool-aid drinking consultant |
I want to marry an Australian (or at least not an American) | Sounds…..true (kidding! Or am I?) |
I hope that was amusing for you. On a more serious note, it is very hard to explain why I’m here. I will admit that I’ve already asked myself a million times why I’m doing this. It is not easy. So far I’ve had feelings of euphoria partnered with extreme loneliness within seconds of each other. My co-workers may be starting to think I’m manic-depressive. Self-reflection and exploration shouldn’t be easy if you want to learn anything from it. It’s funny how this experience has brought up some old insecurities and self-conscious feelings I thought were long gone (and that I was too old to worry about).
The funny thing is, I’ve only been here for 2 months. I’ve gone much longer periods without seeing family, being too busy at work to really see friends or heaven forbid try to have a relationship. The lifestyle I led in Chicago (working a lot, being on the road a decent amount, being without family) could be quite isolated when I let it. (Key phrase: when I let it.) Here, I think it’s something to do with the finality of knowing it will be a REALLY long time. And let’s be honest (hope my mum doesn’t read this)…it’s probably unlikely I’ll be going back in two years, or even four years. I don’t really have an exit strategy, or even know if I want one yet. So here’s the famous loneliness question - what is life without people to share it with? This idea is explored in some great movies like “Into the Wild” and “Up in the Air.” When I am feeling my normal happy self, I like to think that I am just expanding my circle around the whole world, so I have LOTS of people to share it with! Who knows who I will meet or where this life will take me? There, that sounds more like me.
So far I have met AWESOME people here, and will continue to do so. I can’t believe how lucky I am sometimes, the people at work are amazing and welcoming – they’ve really become my extended family and take care of meJ. I’ve met some great friends outside work too. Although this decision may seem completely out of the realm of possibility for many people (the ones who think I am crazy), it is actually a pretty common thing. Particularly people in business, and especially non-Americans. Most of my friends in Chicago didn’t think a thing of the decision. It all is in the eye of the beholder, I suppose.
I'm so happy for you that this opportunity has been so great!
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